My name is Ágnes Borza and I am from Hungary, from Budapest. I am a mathematician and I have been living with my partner in Eindhoven since September 2017.
I met with my boyfriend in 2012 at the university. We first became friends, later we fell in love with each other. We never wanted to move abroad. However, after the master studies (summer 2017) he received a PhD opportunity in Eindhoven. Because we wanted to stay together we decided to move to The Netherlands together. We can say that we are lucky because Hungary is in the EU, so we did not have any major documentary problems, and it was easy to move.
After we moved out we had to learn a lot. We moved from our parents for the first time, and immediately to a foreign country. We couldn’t visit the introductory week, so I didn’t know about GiT. However, the university sent us an e-mail describing that a sport program for partners starts in October in the university sports center. Because the sport plays an important role in my life, I was enthusiastic about it, but the beginning of the program was shifted to January because of the instructor’s surgery. So I stayed alone at home on weekdays. I was terribly bored and I had a big homesick. I missed my family and my friends. It made me worse that I didn’t get a job, I couldn’t occupy myself.
But in January the sport program started, where I felt very happy. Several girls mentioned that there is another group and I should join. So I got to know about GiT, which changed my life! On the one hand I have a weekly program where we get to know a lot of interesting things. On the other hand I realized I am not alone! The girls are in the same situation like me. Almost everyone is highly educated and graduated but without job. We can’t find a job. They helped me to understand that the problem is not with me. We are all here to support our partners and live with them.
At the beginning I was afraid to go to my first meeting. I was afraid I didn’t speak English very well and this would be a problem. That everybody knows each other except me and I will just sit there and I will not feel good. But that didn’t happen! Everyone was incredibly kind to me and very receptive. Several people told me they were already in Budapest, which was my heart’s delight. Because I love my city, my country and I really want to go back.
Since I’ve been a member of GiT, I feel better. Every week I wait for the day when we finally meet. We talk a lot, laugh, share our joy and sorrow. Sometimes we meet in the city or at our place of residence. Many members live in the same building.
We made handicraft things many times that I enjoy very much. That’s why I invited Megha to our apartment because she likes these things too and we sewed a patchwork pattern together. It would be good to organize such occasions and involve other members who would like to join. Sometimes we might even try new techniques. Everyone would show what she knows and teach the others.
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Decoupage workshop
I’ve been living in Eindhoven for almost a year. The girls helped me a lot this time. I still have some homesick and I’m still trying to find a job. But my mood is much better, thanks to GiT.
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